On Small Moments That Reveal Character

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I had a sad experience recently—watching how quickly a person can become unkind, assuming, and honestly, cruel towards someone in service.

I was at a car wash station waiting for the family car to be done.

A customer was on the phone, loudly complaining to what sounded like the staff member’s manager. The issue? She had simply asked whether he was a member of the car wash service.

That was it.

He was offended. Not because something went wrong, but because a question was asked.

He went on at length, repeating himself in circles, but underneath it all, it felt like one thing was driving the reaction—self-entitlement.

As if basic courtesy should not apply to him. As if her job should not involve asking simple, standard questions.

Seriously, dude, she was doing her job.

Eventually, he handed the phone back to her and he walked away for a moment.

In that silence, the three of us—other customers who had overheard everything—turned to the staff member. We reassured her and told her she was doing a good job, as she always did.

Because she was.

What stayed with me wasn’t just the interaction itself—but how quickly basic decency can disappear when someone feels entitled to more respect than they are willing to give.

Where has basic humanity gone in moments like this?

And perhaps more importantly—when did we stop noticing it leaving?